The Role of Triggers in Conflict One of the most common reasons couples get stuck in conflict isn’t what’s being said — it’s how the brain interprets it. Many arguments don’t start because one person is cruel or careless. They begin because a trigger gets mistaken for an attack. Understanding this distinction can quietly change the entire tone of a relationship. What is a Trigger? A trigger is not proof that your partner is against you. It’s your nervous system saying: “This