Coaching

Our Approach

Heart and Head Coaching works, differently:

* We aren't doctors, psychologists, psychiatrists, marriage counselors or astronauts. We are social scientists who have a deep interest in relationship communication. We are experienced, professional communicators with advanced degrees. But we are not therapists. We don't think you're broken - we think you and your partner are communicating about different things. If you'd like to learn more about who we are, check the 'about us' page.

* You work with us as a couple. This isn't one therapist in the room, trying to balance their own relationship style and be fair by staying to the "how does that make you feel" model. We've found that the old therapeutic approach has some real limits. Working with a couple to understand communication means you both have someone to make sure you are heard. You both are seen. You both are understood. You are both part of the process.

* It begins with our three session coaching process that gets things back on track. While we have many clients that say, "we want to keep going and do more sessions," we know that the three session process is the place to start. Future sessions can be added as needed.

* You'll re-establish immediate communication.

* Understand your and your partner's relationship style.

* We don't judge. All relationships go through challenges. All people can experience moments when we aren't our best. Our job isn't to condemn the bad actions... it's to ask the important question: what do you want instead of that? Let us help you find and build that.

* Remove the old triggers for anger, sadness, addiction or fear.

* You each have your own relationship coach with you through the process - no more feeling unheard or unseen along the way.  

* Homework assignments that are short, fun and actually helpful.

* Resources from our massive (and growing) collection of blogs, stories, reels and podcast episodes.

3 Sessions of Heart and Head Coaching

SESSION 1

90 mins - 2 hrs

All four of us work together to break down the issues in the first hour. In the second hour we coach individually on how to work smarter not harder in your relationship.

SESSION 2

90 mins - 2 hrs

We work individually on triggers and defenses.

SESSION 3

90 mins - 2 hrs

All four of us focus on goals and moving forward to design the relationship you want instead. Relationship 2.0. The second half of the session we work individually with the opposite coach to learn and ask questions of the coach that is most like your partner.

Seminars and Retreats

Are you looking for a couples retreat that moves the needle from "roommates" to "connected"? Does your group, gathering or company need speakers who can connect with couples and change the dynamics of communication in a relationship? We can help. We can help you schedule us in Hawaii or arrange for us to lead or participate in an event anywhere in the world. There are no special requests. What do you want to co-create with Randy and Beverly?

Concierge / VIP Services

With more than 15 years of coaching experience in one of the world's most exclusive markets (Hawaiian Islands), Heart and Head Coaching is experienced at working in complete confidentiality with high-net-worth, ultra-high-net-worth, and celebrity couples. We work with all couples. We are experienced in helping couples navigate tough issues such as infidelity and addiction. We are able to comply with NDA and bonding requirements in most US states and many international locations. As we are relationship coaches, not licensed therapists, we are able to provide the highest level of confidentiality without the record keeping requirements of HIPAA. Need someone who can do a session at 2 a.m. because you've got crazy hours? Need someone who can do coaching work on a plane, train or boat? Need an innovative approach that works for couples that don't have any time together because they're both very busy? We've done that - and more. Whether you need a relationship solution for yourself or you serve as council, agent, assistant or manager, for someone who needs a relationship solution, we're happy to provide a consultation and quotation. Click the button below for more information.

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